The Recent Increase of Young Female Divorcees

Although generally, divorce rates are down across the board, there is a new trend developing involving the rise in young female divorcees.  Twenty something’s are realizing that they have rushed into marriage before they were ready or have married the wrong man.   Forty percent of brides who marry between the ages of 20 and 25 can anticipate divorce as compared to 27% of those who wait until they are older. According to relationship counselors there seems to be an increase in the number of confident, smart successful woman who appear to be motivated to get married as soon as possible.  These independent, self assured types of women do not think they need a man to be happy, they just want to live their best life and have it all.  Additionally there appears to be several causes and subtle forces that affect these young women in their decision to marry.

The first force can be categorized as, too much too soon.  The media, on TV and through celebrity gossip, covers young female 20something celebrities happily announcing their engagements.  These stars subtle and often subconsciously send the message that if a young woman is not married by the age of 25, she is somehow failing.  This fear of falling behind some marriage schedule causes rushed marriages that often end in divorce.

The second force that has added to this trend is that the lines between the real world and Hollywood are more blurred these days.  With the increase of reality shows, 24-hour entertainment channels, and web sites and tweets directly from celebrities, fans are more likely to expect their own relationships to mirror Hollywood romance, than years ago.  As a result some young women crave what these young stars have, until it starts to fall apart.

Finally these young bright women may be losing focus on love.  Trying to achieve whole-life success before the age of 30, whether you are famous or not, does not allow for enough time to build a true romantic relationship that works.   In other words, the focus on love is lost when finding the right man to marry becomes something to check off on a to-do list.

Take The Car… I Want The Dog

Connecticut divorce law currently treats pets as personal property and therefore, unless specific arrangements are made in an agreement or judgment concerning the pet, there are no laws to protect your rights where the dog or pet is involved.  Therefore, if the parties can not come to terms with who will keep the dog, you will need to include a settlement agreement which covers care and custody of the pet.

If a judge finds the agreement to be fair, he or she can make it a part of the final divorce degree, which can be enforced under law.   If the parties cannot agree on the care and custody of their pet, they could end up in a nasty, expensive dispute and you may be called upon to prove you are the legal owner, not just the better caregiver, in order to win.  That is because the pet is considered personal property, just like the TV.   If keeping the family pet(s) is something that is important to you when divorcing, we at Bacharach Law Firm will make it important in your agreement and final judgment.

Dogs In Domestic Violence

Pets are many times the silent victims of domestic violence. They can not fight back and research has shown that up to 71% of battered women report their pet was harmed or killed by their partners. In October 2007, Governor Jodi Rell, signed into effect a law which permits courts to issue orders of protection for animals owned or kept by victims of family violence, stalking or harassment. The orders may prohibit respondents from injuring or threatening to injure the family pet. Many victims of violence stay in an abusive situation for fear of what will happen to the animal they leave behind. Almost half of battered women in Connecticut delay their escape for that reason.

Now, by protecting pets, the 2007 law eliminates the opportunity for abusers to continue to abuse their victims by not subjecting them to further intimidation and cruelty if a pet becomes a target. Ten US States now allow animal companions to be included in protective orders : California, Colorado, Connecticut, Illinois, Louisiana, Maine, Nevada, New York, Tennessee, and Vermont.